Is your body as slim, fit and healthy as you would like it to be? Do you have all the money you could possibly want? Are your love life and other relationships deeply satisfying? Are you filled with a sense of purpose and can’t wait to get up everyday and do whatever you do for a living? Does your level of fulfilment and happiness leave you full of energy and beaming with joy? Is everything perfect in your world?
No? I thought not.
And it never will be, until you learn the most important thing you can ever learn……..I mean really learn it. You’ve heard it said many times, but you don’t really “get it“. You know it intellectually, but you don’t “do it“. And that’s not your fault…..you were actually taught when you were very young NOT to do it. But if you really want to be happy and fulfilled in life, then you’re going to have to take the time and make the effort to unlearn what you were taught.
You are going to have put in the work or nothing’s going to change. Sorry, but that’s just how it is. I mean, you don’t build physical muscle and a fit, toned body by sitting on your backside do you! And it’s the same with this.
If life isn’t working out for you the way you want it to be, then just like you would do if you wanted to improve your physical body, you have to learn the “anatomy” and science behind how life works and then put it into practice. You have to train, build and tone your mental, emotional and spiritual muscles. Then, just as you can run further and lift more when you train your physical muscles, you’ll be able to start to naturally think differently, feel differently and so cause different results in your life, once you’ve understood this one important thing that I’m about to tell you and have learnt to put it into practice.
The Most Important Thing You Can Ever Learn Is This:
It is your thoughts that control how you feel, not what happens to you or what people or things are in your life, and you are the only one who can think in your mind.
Just think about that deeply for a moment. It sounds obvious but don’t be fooled by that.
Happiness doesn’t lie in having that slim, fit, toned body, or all the money you could ever want, the perfect work or relationships. If it did, then 99.99% of the world could never be happy! Happiness is a state of mind, not a state of body, a person, circumstance or thing.
Although at times it is difficult or it seems like we have no control over what thoughts we think, that is never true. However hard it may be, we do have the ability to change what we are thinking and to choose what we think. Therefore you have the power to control how you feel.
The problem is, that as children we are trained to believe more in the power of others, in particular our parents, than in our own power. We relied on them. As a result we fail to believe in our own power. We feel at the mercy of whatever happens or whatever we have. We fail to develop the habit of using our power to choose our thoughts. Instead our thoughts arise automatically based on what has been programmed into us from everything we have seen, read, heard or experienced, and we end up with no control over how we feel. We are taught that states of being and having, not states of mind, will make us happy.
As adults we then transfer the power to control how we feel to other people, events, circumstances or things, and particularly to those in our closest relationships. We do this by depending on them to complete us and make us happy. We say things like: “When I meet my perfect partner I’ll be happy/If you do this I’ll be happy/When I make my fortune I’ll be happy/When I’m slim I’ll be happy/If the sun shines I’ll be happy.”
As long as you depend on someone or something else to make you feel good, you have relinquished your power and your happiness is insecure because it is impossible for someone or something else to make you happy all the time….. forever. As soon as someone says or does something that is not what you want them to say or do, you automatically think thoughts about it that make you feel bad.
Your happiness and the security of it lies in you, because you have the power to change your thoughts and therefore how you feel. The most important thing you can do for yourself is take back your power, stop expecting someone or something else to make you feel good, and start to choose your thoughts and think in a way that makes you feel good. That is a skill that we are not taught in school, but it is the most important skill you will ever learn.
1. Begin by trusting yourself to notice how you feel and that, when you have learnt how, you can refocus you thoughts onto ones that make you feel better. Trust that your happiness therefore lies within you and is under your control.
2. The next step is to understand that your current thoughts may seem like it, but they are not your own. You did not choose them, they have been programmed into you.
3. Then learn how stop the automatic thoughts and to decide which thoughts you will think, thoughts that make you feel good, and learn how to build the mental muscle that will make the new way of thinking automatic instead.
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